Welcome to 2021!
Happy New Year! I really hope you enjoyed the New Year’s celebrations. Thank you for reading my blog through 2020, and here’s to the lessons 2021 will share with us!
As we look ahead into 2021, I wanted to share with you some mindsets I’m hoping to carry into this year that I hope can encourage you, too. I hope that they will inspire you and that maybe one or two might resonate with you too.
Here are 5 things I’m aiming to do in 2021!
- Embrace New Beginnings
I’m currently doing a really brilliant Bible Plan called ‘All Things New’, which I really recommend. It’s been so encouraging, talking about the new seasons around us that have already begun, but that we sometimes don’t see. Sometimes it’s easy to feel bogged down by things we feel we haven’t achieved yet. Maybe in 2020 you had particular dreams that didn’t happen. But I want to encourage you to enter 2021 with expectancy, hope and faith. Delay is not denial and God makes everything beautiful in its perfect and appropriate time (Ecclesiastes 3) — remember that a blessing out of season is destructive. It’s 2021. It’s a new season. You get to prayerfully define what that means to you. And to rest in God as His perfect plans unfold.
2. Know your Boundaries and Values
There were times last year, I’ll be honest, at my old workplace and in my life outside of work where I burnt out. We have to remember there’s only so much we can pour. This year, I’m prioritising rest a lot more.
It’s also important to remember that in life — and in the workplace — there are givers and takers. If you’re naturally a giver, like me, it’s even more vital to really think about and define what you will and won’t do or accept. Boundaries save lives, protect your sanity, and provide stability in all areas of life. With all that’s been happening recently in the world, they’re an even more important part of self-care.
What will and won’t you do or take on at work? Do you know how to say ‘no’ without apologising? What will and won’t you tolerate in a relationship? When do and when don’t you take other people’s emotions on? When do you give someone the benefit of the doubt, and when do you not? It’s so important to know your boundaries before the moment you need them or the moment they’re being challenged!
3. Give a Few less Fs!
This is a big one for me. I can sometimes overthink and worry about things beyond my control!
I read an excellent book last year called The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck by Mark Manson and it was LIFE-CHANGING! Essentially, it said we must remember that life is short, we have limited Fs to give, and so we need to ensure we only give them where they’re truly appropriate.
‘Giving too many Fs is bad for your mental health,’ Manson writes. How do you decide when to give one? Well, it all comes back to your values. Your values determine your problems and give hints as to when you do and don’t need to give an F. The book explains it all brilliantly. But essentially, in 2021 I’m trying to live a little lighter, worry less, and only care about what matters.
4. Prioritise Fun
This is self-explanatory, but after a year of seriousness and a lot of global sadness and tragedy, I believe we could all use a little humour and fun this year. I’m definitely going to be tuning into more comedy shows, sharing more belly-laughs and glasses of wine with friends over Zoom, making time for my favourite movies, and working out consistently (painful, but — I’ll admit it — fun! 😂).
Last year I learnt how important fun is to me as a person, so I want to make more time for it this year. How about you? What does fun mean to you? What does it look like to you? What activities fill you up? Do more of those!
5. Define and Cement the Good Habits
Many of us make new years’ resolutions around this time, but it’s a well-known fact that by February most of those resolutions we make have often flopped!
The key to a transformed lifestyle, I believe, starts with the new habits we form. One right decision in the right direction at a time.
Then, it’s about making that right decision a habit. And before you know it, transformation is happening. Whether it’s choosing to eat right, stick to your exercise routine, remind those close to you you love them, or to stop telling white lies — lives change when habits change, and habits are formed one right decision at a time.
And so, there you have it – some of the key things I’m hoping to take into this new year. Sometimes, it’s more effective to commit to a new mindset and mentality than it is to make a list of specific actions you will or won’t do, as part of a NY resolution. Mindsets drive actions and sit deeper in our hearts, I feel.
I hope these have given you some food for thought and that this 2021 is a good year for you and your loved ones.
Photo: Annie Spratt
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